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Win-Win Negotiating

Posted 5 years ago

Oftentimes, people view negotiating as one person trying to get something from another person. However, it does not have to be a process that leaves one party with a bad taste in their mouth, while the other is doing a victory dance. It is possible for both parties to come away from a negotiation feeling like winners. This is what Dr. Tony Alessandra describes as win-win negotiating. In this week’s story, co-author of the popular sales skills test, Sales IQ Plus, Dr. Tony outlines 13 tips to help ensure that any negotiation you take part in can (and should) end with a win-win result!

Win-Win Negotiating

By Dr. Tony Alessandra

The two ends of the negotiating spectrum are win-win negotiating versus win-lose negotiating. Win-Lose negotiators see the participants as adversaries. Tactics include exerting power and using subterfuge. There is a lot of mistrust, tension and suspicion. The win-lose negotiator’s goal is to win. There are usually hard feelings on somebody’s part – typically the loser. The focus is on single positions – “This is what I want!” It’s hardball negotiating. 

The win-win negotiator sees the participants as problem solvers looking for a mutually satisfactory solution. It is a process that both parties can walk away from and feel comfortable that neither one was “had.” It relies on trust, openness, credibility and honesty. The goal is a wise and fair outcome for all parties. The focus is on multiple options. There are many ways to satisfy both parties’ needs, not just one.

Everybody should have a negotiating philosophy. Many people enter important negotiations without having a clear idea of what they would like to accomplish. A negotiating philosophy could be that you want to go for low price; or you may be willing to pay going rates, but you want to get as many additional amenities as possible.

Here is my personal negotiating philosophy: “When two people want to do business together, they will not let the details stand in the way. However, when two people do not want to do business together, the details will rarely pull the deal together.” If somebody wants to do business with you, he or she is more apt to compromise and less apt to seek unreasonable compromises from you.

Here are 13 specific actions to help ensure you are taking, and achieving, a win-win negotiating approach –

1. Develop a negotiation strategy that clearly spells out what you will and will not do during the negotiations.

2. Collect as much background information as possible beforehand on the people and companies you will be facing in the negotiation process.

3. Evaluate your competitive exposure. What are the odds that another supplier will come up with a better offer than the one you are making? This information can help establish your maximums and minimums.

4. Prepare and role-play with colleagues prior to your initial negotiation meeting. It provides you with confidence in facing questions and situations you are now prepared to handle.

5. If it is a face-to-face negotiation, make sure that your clothing, grooming, materials, handouts, preparation and depth of knowledge project credibility, authority and strength. This is where you start creating the “confidence” factor because people do “judge books by their cover.” People will not negotiate seriously with you if they don’t believe you have the power and credibility to make decisions.

6. Tailor your pace and presentation to the individual differences of the other people. Be prepared to speed up or slow down your presentation. Be prepared to do more initial relationship building or get down to business sooner than later. It will reduce relationship tension and subsequently increase interpersonal trust, credibility, cooperation and productivity.

7. Take time to study all dimensions of the other person’s current situation. Ask questions and listen with your ears and eyes. Try to determine the end results the other person is attempting to accomplish, not solely his position or demands. However, it would be important to find out the decision-making criteria (must haves vs. should haves vs. nice to haves) of the other person. This will provide you with his/her negotiation limits.

8. When presenting your desires/demands, try to relate them to the end results the other person is attempting to achieve. Show how your requests will also benefit the other person.

9. Negotiate the points of difference. Do not always go for low price (unless that’s your negotiation philosophy). Look for other points to negotiate. For example, gain some flexibility by offering better terms, payment plans, return policies, delivery schedules, lower deposits or cancellation fees or providing implementation and training programs. Often these things can be provided for less than your company would lose if you were to lower the price.    

10. Do not attack the other person’s position (specific demands). Look behind them (objectives/end results).

11. Do not defend your position. Invite criticism and advice, e.g., “This is my thinking. What would you do if you were in my position?”

12. When you give something up, try to get something in return. When you give something for nothing, there is a tendency for people to want more. In all fairness to both of you, you should balance what you give and receive. For example, “I’ll lower the price if you pay in full within thirty day” or “I’ll give you ten percent off but you will be charged for additional services such as training.”

13. At the conclusion of your negotiations, make sure all parties fully and clearly understand who is to do what, when, where, how, and why. This 13th and final step is critical to ensure all involved parties come away from the experience feeling like they’ve participated successfully in win-win negotiating. 

By following these strategies, you should significantly improve the outcomes you generate from your negotiations. Furthermore, your counterparts in the negotiation sessions will feel much better about you, the process, and their outcomes. Together you’ll both feel that a “fair” position was reached that was in the best interest of both sides – a win-win negotiating outcome.

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Dr. Tony Alessandra has a street-wise, college-smart perspective on business, having been raised in the housing projects of NYC to eventually realizing success as a graduate professor of marketing, internet entrepreneur, business author, and hall-of-fame keynote speaker. He earned a BBA from Notre Dame, a MBA from the Univ. of Connecticut and his PhD in marketing from Georgia State University (1976). Known as “Dr. Tony” he’s authored 30+ books and 100+ audio/video programs. He was inducted into the NSA Speakers Hall of Fame (1985) and Top Sales World’s Hall of Fame (2010). Meetings & Conventions Magazine has called him “one of America’s most electrifying speakers”.

Dr. Tony is also the Founder/CVO of Assessments 24×7. Assessments 24×7 is a global leader of online DISC assessments, delivered from easy-to-use online accounts popular with business coaches and Fortune 500 trainers around the world. Interested in learning more about these customized assessment accounts? Please contact us.